Culled from talkofnaija, I believe this topic is for everyone that is currently in a relationship because it comes with alot of responsibility...
This goes to all the ladies and guys out there. Have you ever taken time to think of the reasons why you were dumped?
Why doesn't your partner like you? Why him/her dim their love for you? Why your partner changed all over a sudden? Why guys/ladies don’t fall for you? Why you are remaining single year to year?
1. You Lie Too Much - Your partner isn't as dumb as you might be thinking. They have haunches and intuition too. They can tell when they're being lied too. Don't try to hide who you are because you think your partner won't like the real you. You can't fool somebody forever and once the truth comes out he/she will never trust you again. So be yourself at all times in a relationship.
2. You Don't Appreciate The Little Things Done For You - Some people are horrible with expressing their feelings, but they try to in their own little ways. Sometimes it's something small like picking up a cupcake because they know you'll like it. Lots of times an act like this goes unnoticed or cleaning up the room after have messed things up, If your partner is trying to show you he/she cares and you don't see it will look like you don't care or you don’t love back. Please learn to appreciate little efforts.
3. You Text & Make Calls Too Much - Your partner will always want to feel important when they are with you so dont spoil that moment. If you're on your phone the whole time texting, chatting, browsing or even calling during dinner or nights out, they'll feel like you don't care about them. The solution is to turn your phone off so you can give them all your attention. You dont need to think about it, just stop it.
4. You're a Party Animal - I am sure almost everyone loves to have fun, but they also like to chill out. If you're going out to bars and clubbing like thrice a week, soon your partner will get tired of it. First of all it’s not developmental at all and it’s wastage of time if overdone. So your partner might hate and dump you for that. If you want to be in a committed relationship you have to drastically reduce the crazy nights out.
5. Showing That You Know Everything - Humans are smart in general in our own different ways; we all know this, but some people think they know everything just because they earn more than their partners or have a better certificate than their partners. Nobody likes a know-it-all. Do not shove your "selling point" in their face... lol. It will definitely create inferiority complex and depression consciously or unconsciously to the other person. Even if you know you're right about something let it slide sometimes. It's okay to let someone else have the glory.
6. Do Not Be Afraid To Eat/Fart - Here's a fact about this world: We all like to eat food. If you don't eat while your partner is, you'll make them feel awkward. You don't need to eat a cheeseburger and fries every day, but do more than have a side salad for dinner. Also, do not be afraid or shy to fart in front of one another in only goes to show how comfortable you are with your partner unless stated otherwise... this is my own theory
7. You Are a Mama's Baby - If whenever life gets rough you run to your parents for help, it might be a turnoff to your partner. It's good to have a support system, but if you're calling your mom for every little problem you encounter in your relationship, it might show you won't be able to handle the bigger problems alone when they come. So define your relationship if your partner wants privacy, please respect it. Am not saying you should keep quiet if your partner abuses you or beats you. You should know when to draw the line
8. You Don't Work But You Want To Spend Like a Billionaire - The ladies are more guilty here;If you want to shop all day long, you better have your own money to do it. Guys don't like having to sweat all day. Many ladies sometimes like competing, they like buying things that they won’t use simply because they don’t suit their standards. They like to poses it and full up their wardrobe simply because she saw her closest female friend with it. Guys dislike this; they will dump you because of being a big spender.
9. You Need To Change Your Partner - Guys and ladies like who they are. They are how they are for a reason, basically for a living. If your partner is a horrible dresser you can buy them new clothes you would rather see them wear, but don't force anything on them. Just love your partner the way he/she is. If you aren't happy with who they are, find somebody else that makes you happy.
10. Do not be Over Dramatic- There's nothing worse than blowing things out of proportion for no reason when the issue can be easily overlooked or forgotten like if you missed your favourite game because she was watching her favourite movie or your favourite salad out of stock when you went grocery shopping. Even if it means a lot to you try to let it go.
11. Being So Friendly To Your Partners Friends - When you try to step in between a guy and his buddies or a lady and her friends all you're doing is creating a barrier between the two of you. A guy may dump you because of your being so close to his friends. this also is applicable to ladies. They will feel insecure; jealousy may set in and trust issues starts arising hence leading to dumping you and even hating their friends for life. Don’t be into each others' friends so much; don’t communicate with them behind your partner's back unless they is okay with it.
